This post originally appeared at my parenting blog The Gift of Good Manners. I will be cross posting some of my favorite content from that blog here at the Etiquette Daily periodically. I hope you enjoy these posts as much as I enjoyed writing them.
This question appeared on Emily Post’s Etiquette Daily, the Q & A blog of the Emily Post Institute, and had to do with children’s birthday parties and thought you all might be interested. I suggest searching for other questions related to children and parents by selecting the Children’s Etiquette category. Enjoy!
Q: Our 4-year-old gets invited to so many birthday parties, we can’t keep up. Sometimes it’s for a classmate she barely knows and she’s not even eager to attend. When is it okay to say no, and in those cases, do we have to send a gift anyway?
A: It’s fine to say no whenever you wish, and it can certainly make sense when your daughter isn’t that interested in going. You don’t need to send a gift-just be sure to RSVP “no” to the host. I wouldn’t turn down too many parties however. They do provide a great chance for your daughter to get to know her classmates better. And if “everyone” attends, after a while she may begin to feel out of the loop.