Q: My coworker was laid off, and I’d like to organize a get-together for him, but I’m not sure whether that’s appropriate. What’s the best way to show I care?
A: First, see how he’s doing. He may appreciate a week to get over the initial shock and hurt feelings. Then call him and say, “Jake, we’d like to take you out for lunch–when might be a good time?” Be understanding if he decides a gathering would be too difficult right now. Beyond that, check in periodically to see how he is and to offer encouragement.