Q: My sister-in law wants to be a good house guest, but that means she “tidies up” my home by throwing out things I need. What can I do?
A: Kudos for recognizing that her actions are well intended. Now the key is to channel her enthusiasm in a different direction. Be prepared for her next visit with ideas about what chores she can do to be useful. Then, if she starts to clean up the living room before dinner, say, “Would you mind emptying the dishwasher instead? That would be a huge help.”