Q: I love my mother dearly. I’ve learned a lot from her, and I know what she went through to raise me. Whenever I cook, though, she finds fault with my food. What can I do to deal with the consistent insults?
A: As hard as this may be, you should take the high road. Stay calm, thank her as graciously as possible for her advice, and change the subject. Confronting her won’t make you feel better either. Instead, encourage another relative to compliment your cooking in front of your mom. When she sees that neither of you seems bothered by her negative comments, she may lose interest and pipe down.