Q: My good friend’s father is being buried on a weekday morning — in a town three hours away. Am I obliged to take a day off from work and go?
A: No, you’re not require to be there — however, your presence may mean a lot, so weigh the decision carefully. Think about what would best help your friend. Could she not imagine making it though the funeral without you? Or will she have a lot of support that day and need you more in the weeks and months that follow? Answer these questions, and you’ll know the best course of action.