Q: My neighbor and I carpool. I do all the driving, but she’s never asked offered me gas money, and with prices skyrocketing — ouch! Can I say something?
A: You can still lay down rules, even at this point. Say “Janet, I’m glad I’ve been able to help you out, but with gas so expensive, I’d like some help going forward.” Give her a chance to say what she can contribute, but also be ready with a counteroffer. Say “I’m happy to drive if you’d chip in $20 a week and pay half the parking fee.” You can share the costs, or perhaps she’ll decide that she’d rather do some of the driving. Either result will be fairer to you.