Q: At a wedding shower, the hostess handed each guest the envelope for a thank-you note and asked that we address it to ourselves. The idea is to save time for the bride–but isn’t this really rude?
A: I’d call it inappropriate. Sure, this makes life easier for the bride, but it also shows a lack of consideration for the guests and implies that thank-yous are a real chore. That said, refusing to comply could embarrass the host. So address your envelope–just don’t ask guests to do the same the next time you throw a shower!