1. Curious

    Need insight…encounter at office
    I am a married female over 30 and he is an executive married that appears to be in his early 50’s. I work in a large open office environment with several executives in my department. Mr. Executive introduced himself while in passing several months ago when I first joined the company. We speak and sometimes chat very briefly (weather/current event) while in passing from time to time.
    One particular afternoon I was in the break room alone washing my hands and Mr. Executive entered and spoke. I spoke as I continued to wash my hands. When I turned around towards him as I dried my hands, he looked in my eyes with a pleasant gaze (no lust or disgust) and quickly shifted his eyes from side to side twice while he looked in my eyes. Then he said have a good day and walked out. I replied you too. Mr. Executive is very professional. I am also very professional and courteous at all times. Nothing has changed since this encounter; we still speak and carry on as usual.
    Was Mr. Executive trying to see if I was interested in him or let me know he was interested in me? Or was this nothing at all? What does the eye gesture mean, if anything?

    • Graceandhonor

      I urge you to resist giving Mr. Married Exec’s behavior another thought and maintain a professional demeanor with him, and if at all possible, avoid any scenario in which you might find yourself alone with him. As for your questions, the only thing you need to know is something you already do: HE IS MARRIED AND YOU ARE, TOO. (ALL CAPS INTENTIONAL.)

  2. ShaunaMahana

    In honor of a particular movie franchise installment coming out next month, my friend wants to throw a party. She sent out invites via a social networking site and told all guests that they HAD to dress like characters in the film. She is only anticipating around 30 people to attend but when talking about planning food, decor, etc. sounded like she was expecting throngs of people to show. I was able to talk her into narrowing down the menu to a fraction of what she originally wanted, but it’s still too much. Now she’s going haywire over the decor and how authentic to the movie it has to be. Basically, she’s trying to go above and beyond what she is able to do financially and realistically.

    Because she’s already purchased most of the items before running ideas by me (I am now involuntarily a co-host), she’s running short on cash and she is in between jobs. I have told her several times she needs to scale back and calm it down, a simple party would be just as fun. Last night she called and asked me to send a “secret” email to all of the other attendees asking them to donate some money to the festivities to “help her out”. I didn’t know how else to respond so I told her I would but I think it’s extremely rude to ask me to send that and the others when she is the one who is over-enthusiastic about this. I have offered to chip in but she told me that my assistance was more than enough and not to worry about it. What should I do? Send the email? Or just pay out of my pocket anyways?

    • Graceandhonor

      Go back to your friend, and tell her you’ve reconsidered her request and are uncomfortable sending the soliciting email. Really, your friend needs to grow up. Unless she’s fifteen.

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