Q: Even after telling my good friend that her lateness – as much as half an hour! – is rude, she still hasn’t mended her ways. How can I make her more punctual?
A: If she didn’t shape up when you zapped her for being incosiderate, she probably won’t respond to subtle (or devious) tactics either. Your only recourse is to be even more up-front and set a clear boundary. Tell her that the next time you make plans, you’ll wait 15 minutes and then you’re leaving. Though her behavior is infuriating, part of the problem may be that she underestimates how long it takes to get from here to there. So by letting her know that you will wait only 15 minutes, you’ll force her to calculate her travel time more carefully.
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