Q: My neighbor always asks for favors when she is away. I like lending a hand, but she benefits more from my help than I do from hers. Is it OK to decline now and then?
A: Of course! Tell her, “I won’t have time to help this week, and I’d hate to forgot to water your plants.” Then suggest that she hire someone, perhaps a neighborhood teen. It’ll remind her that people often pay for these sorts of “favors”- with money or a favor in kind.