Q: I love my in-laws, but it’s hard when they tell us they’re coming for a visit with only a week’s notice. It’s not always the best time for our family, but my husband refuses to say anything. What can I do?
A: If you had your husband’s support, it would be easier, but with a dose of diplomacy you should be able to take some control. Try making the first move. Instead of waiting for them to invite themselves, suggest a weekend that works for you. They’ll probably be delighted, and you’ll feel less resentful. Perhaps say how wonderful it would be for them to visit during the kids’ school vacations, because they’d get more time with their grandchildren. They should get the message.