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can a wedding guest wear white for the wedding ?
I believe that in the past, guests were not allowed to wear white because it would appear that they were competing with the bride. Today’s rules are a bit more relaxed, although if a woman does wear white, she should try to keep it simple. Also, weather and time of year are a factor in wearing white!
Keep it very, very simple. Do not make anyone think you are trying to upstage the bride on her day. If there is any doubt, pick another color.
A good (but not a best) friend and neighbor passed away. I have been invited to her home many times and she had been invited to mine many times as well. There is going to be a celebration of her life at a local venue. Do I wait for an invitation? Or just go?
If I go, do I take food? I understand it is going to be a party. Should I also take wine or beer?
I offer my condolences for the loss of your friend. At times of great loss families have so many details to keep track of while planning rapidly that they may not be able to invite everyone who would like to come. If your understanding is that this is an open event, as many memorial celebrations are, than you should definitely go. You might try to call the venue or a family member that you know and ask if there is anything you can do to assist with or contribute to the celebration. Have a few suggestions ready for ways you would be willing to help out and specifically make these offers. Your help might be greatly appreciated and the easier you can make it for those very close to the deceased to accept it the better. You can always bring or send flowers if it they are not planning on providing food or already have this taken care of.
Thank you so much. That was helpful.
Is it acceptable to invite some guest to the reception only and other guest to the wedding ceremony and reception. I think not, but my niece is doing this.
This is an acceptable practice. Some couples wish to keep their wedding private, often for spiritual or sincere religous convictions. However, if someone is invited to a wedding, they most certainly must be invited to the reception.
Having said this, I personally believe if someone is close enough to be invited to one’s wedding reception, they ought to be close enough to invite to the wedding ceremony, too.