Comments on: Open thread http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2010/03/open-thread-220/ Tue, 07 Feb 2012 06:41:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Daniel Post Senning http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2010/03/open-thread-220/#comment-1982 Daniel Post Senning Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:57:47 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=1709#comment-1982 Hi Laura. As you are well aware the general rule is that <em>all</em> wedding invitations are responded to with a gift. As an etiquette advice expert I am contractually obligated to mention this first. Having said this, there are exceptions to every rule and the situation that you describe is one of the very rare exceptions. We used to make no allowances for this type of situation because of the negative perception that can be created when people don't send gifts even for good reasons but with larger and looser groups of associates being more common we have been evolving this position slightly. You should of course still RSVP promptly with your regrets about not being able to attend. Hi Laura. As you are well aware the general rule is that all wedding invitations are responded to with a gift. As an etiquette advice expert I am contractually obligated to mention this first. Having said this, there are exceptions to every rule and the situation that you describe is one of the very rare exceptions. We used to make no allowances for this type of situation because of the negative perception that can be created when people don’t send gifts even for good reasons but with larger and looser groups of associates being more common we have been evolving this position slightly. You should of course still RSVP promptly with your regrets about not being able to attend.

]]> By: Laura Nist http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2010/03/open-thread-220/#comment-1981 Laura Nist Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:25:22 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=1709#comment-1981 My husband and I received a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday from a woman who we've neither seen nor talked to in about ten years. She was more of an acquaintance than a friend. Needless to say, we've decided to regretfully decline. I'm just wondering whether or not we are still obligated to send a gift of some sort. Laura My husband and I received a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday from a woman who we’ve neither seen nor talked to in about ten years. She was more of an acquaintance than a friend. Needless to say, we’ve decided to regretfully decline. I’m just wondering whether or not we are still obligated to send a gift of some sort.

Laura

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