Comments on: Careless Company: When your guests linger http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2010/03/careless-company-when-your-guests-linger/ Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:07:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Graceandhonor http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2010/03/careless-company-when-your-guests-linger/#comment-1994 Graceandhonor Mon, 29 Mar 2010 19:37:44 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=2250#comment-1994 Daniel, in this case, the hostess did ask Patty to bring the pie, and Patty brought two. If I had been in Patty's shoes, after the meal was finished, I'd have offered to help serve dessert and asked the hostess where the pie was, and proceeded to cut it. If the hostess balked, I'd reply, "Now, Jane, you know I brought one for Fred and one for everyone else!" Daniel, in this case, the hostess did ask Patty to bring the pie, and Patty brought two. If I had been in Patty’s shoes, after the meal was finished, I’d have offered to help serve dessert and asked the hostess where the pie was, and proceeded to cut it. If the hostess balked, I’d reply, “Now, Jane, you know I brought one for Fred and one for everyone else!”

]]> By: Daniel Post Senning http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2010/03/careless-company-when-your-guests-linger/#comment-1993 Daniel Post Senning Mon, 29 Mar 2010 18:39:58 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=2250#comment-1993 <em>The case of the disappearing pies.</em> Bringing a desert to share to a dinner can be tricky in that the host may have a desert plan already in place. Unless you have been specifically asked to contribute something I would not take it personally that the pie is treated more as a host gift than a treat to be shared. It is nice of you to be thinking about a good way to acknowledge your host and it sounds like your pies are indeed appreciated even if they do not reappear at the end of the meal. The case of the disappearing pies. Bringing a desert to share to a dinner can be tricky in that the host may have a desert plan already in place. Unless you have been specifically asked to contribute something I would not take it personally that the pie is treated more as a host gift than a treat to be shared. It is nice of you to be thinking about a good way to acknowledge your host and it sounds like your pies are indeed appreciated even if they do not reappear at the end of the meal.

]]> By: Patty http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2010/03/careless-company-when-your-guests-linger/#comment-1992 Patty Mon, 29 Mar 2010 17:45:31 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=2250#comment-1992 I recently attended a family Easter celebration. Trying to be ever helpful, beforehand I offered to bring a dish to the gathering. The hostess told me that was unnecessary, but asked if I would bring a specific desert that was a favorite of her husbands’. From previous experience, I knew that if I brought this dessert (a pie) it would not be served; in the past, it has been whisked away before the other guests could see it, so that the host may eat it later. I still wanted to contribute to the celebration and this dessert is a favorite of my family’s, so I made 2 pies – one to serve and one as a gift for the host and hostess. Upon arriving, BOTH pies were taken and hidden out of sight, neither pie being served at all. Before the celebration, I told the hostess my plan of making 2 pies, and the purpose of each. Is it poor etiquette that both pies weren’t served? Sincerely, Pie-less I recently attended a family Easter celebration. Trying to be ever helpful, beforehand I offered to bring a dish to the gathering. The hostess told me that was unnecessary, but asked if I would bring a specific desert that was a favorite of her husbands’. From previous experience, I knew that if I brought this dessert (a pie) it would not be served; in the past, it has been whisked away before the other guests could see it, so that the host may eat it later. I still wanted to contribute to the celebration and this dessert is a favorite of my family’s, so I made 2 pies – one to serve and one as a gift for the host and hostess. Upon arriving, BOTH pies were taken and hidden out of sight, neither pie being served at all. Before the celebration, I told the hostess my plan of making 2 pies, and the purpose of each. Is it poor etiquette that both pies weren’t served?

Sincerely,
Pie-less

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