Q: My cousin is getting married-it’s the second wedding for both her and her fiance. My sister says it’s rude to not give a gift, but I gave a present the first time. Do I really have to give another?
A: No. Those who gave gifts the first time have no obligation to give again. But some family and friends of a remarrying bride or groom give anyway, simply because they want to celebrate the couple’s happiness. Before you do anything, check in with other family members: Many remarrying couples forgo gifts entirely. If that’s the case, your cousin should let people know by word of mouth, since any mention of gifts on the invitation is an etiquette faux pas.