Ungracious Guests: When friends leave your place a mess

by EPI Staff on January 5, 2010

Q: Last year, we let some friends use our beach house-but they ate everything in sight and left the place a mess!  They’ve asked for a weekend this year.  Can we say no without hurting the friendship?

A: You have every right to ban these sloppy folks from using your home.  Be diplomatic and it won’t be a friendship-ender.  Politely say “We’re not able to have people at our place this year, but we can give you the number of a nice B&B nearby.  This approach won’t single them out, buy they’ll get the hint and maybe think twice about their manners.

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Camille January 6, 2010 at 11:50 am

I would tell them no – without accusing them directly, I would say that the reason why you are not letting anyone use it anymore is you rented it out a lot last year and some of the people who you let use it left it a total mess and it costs too much to clean up after everyone and replace all the food.


Graceandhonor January 6, 2010 at 2:01 pm

This is good, Camille; may give them pause to ask themselves if it pertains to them!


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