Q: Last year, we let some friends use our beach house-but they ate everything in sight and left the place a mess! They’ve asked for a weekend this year. Can we say no without hurting the friendship?
A: You have every right to ban these sloppy folks from using your home. Be diplomatic and it won’t be a friendship-ender. Politely say “We’re not able to have people at our place this year, but we can give you the number of a nice B&B nearby. This approach won’t single them out, buy they’ll get the hint and maybe think twice about their manners.