1. Melodi Pentico

    I like to remember people I know at work on their birthday by sending them a card. We have an interoffice mail system and using it would save me postage; Is it best to send via USPS or use interoffice mail? This is not an issue for the company, we are free to utilize the interoffice mail for this purpose but does it lessen the sentiment to take advantage of a free postal solution?

    • Graceandhonor

      It is perfectly fine to use your interoffice mail to remember your coworkers. They will be delighted you remembered them.

  2. Randy Strauss

    I find myself confronted with an uncomfortable situation. A friend of mine, who has remarried, is faced with the suicide of an ex-husband and father of two of her children. I only met the man once, but I am aware that she will not be receiving any more child support and the boys won’t be receiving anything in the will. As a matter of fact, the man’s family has invited the two boys to the wake and funeral, but have not invited my friend and her current husband.

    I feel it necessary to pen a note of condolence, but I’m at a loss as to how to word it. Keeping it simple and formal seems weak considering my feelings for her and the boys, but more than a note of “you are in our thoughts” seems a bit much. Also, I am unable to offer much help as we live half a continent away.

    Any thoughts are appreciated.

    Regards, Randy Strauss

    • Graceandhonor

      Dear Randy,

      Perhaps you might want to handle this incrementally, as no doubt will the family. A simple note to start is good and then follow up periodically via mail or phone, lending a shoulder or ear as your friend opens up. At some point, ask your friend how best you can help her and her children. If you know the boys well, remember them on birthdays and holidays.

      My sympathy to you and your friends.


  3. Randi

    I am hosting a 40th birthday party for myself and want to include on the invitation “please no gifts”. I have been told that this is tacky? Is it? Is there a better way to express that I want my family and friends to come, eat, drink and have fun but not feel as though they must show up with a gift.

    • Graceandhonor

      I may be swimming against the tide on this one, but if your gathering is an INFORMAL one with close friends and family, there is absolutely nothing wrong with stating, “No gifts, please, just YOU!” The trees rustling around you will be the collective sigh of relief from your happy guests.

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