One Day, Two Weddings: What’s a person to do?
2010 January 22
Q: I’ve received two wedding invitations for the same day–one from a college friend and one from a cousin. Which one should take precedence?
A: The decision is yours: Think about which person you’re closer to. If you choose your friend, reach out to your family immediately (and in person, if possible) to minimize hurt feelings, and try to set up another time to see the couple. But whichever invitation you decline, send a note of thanks with an explanation and be sure to RSVP promptly to both.
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Help! My daughter included registry information inside her wedding invitations. Is there a way to address this after they’ve been sent out, or should I try to forget about it?
Thanks from a concerned Mother of the Bride
The damage has been done. Do encourage your daughter to be especially careful from here on out and learn about good manners so that this faux pas will hopefully be forgotten.
My sister is getting married in May and I am the Maid of Honor. I’ve never planned a shower before but the other brides maid is fighting me on everything. The shower is at the end of March. Our wedding dress colors are black and silver. She thinks we should decorate the wedding shower with black and white carnations with silver balloons. I feel like that is something for a birthday party or new years eve party.. not a spring wedding shower. I decided to go with spring flowers. She tells me I am wrong and we should be doing wedding colors. Is there etiquette for this?
Relatives do not host showers for relatives as it is considered grabbing and in poor taste. Aside from this, a shower is not required to be decorated in the same color scheme as a wedding, though some are. Seems to me a spring shower should rejoice in the season, though; if the wedding is an evening affair, the b/w/silver theme works well, but may seem harsh for a daytime shower. Carnations are not the prettiest flower to begin with and a black one? Hmmm. Rather funereal or Goth, don’t you think?
I thought the carnations were tacky and the black ones especially! Thank you for your reply. It makes me feel better since I haven’t a clue what I am doing. The brides maid fights me tooth and nail on everything and makes me feel bad about doing something nice for my sister. I didn’t know that relatives are not supposed to hold showers for relatives. It always seems to me that holding a shower is one of the duties of the maid of honor. Once again, thank you very much.
It is not a requirement that a maid of honor, nor a bridesmaid for that matter, host a shower for the bride, but good luck with your soiree!