Q: The one-year anniversary of my grandfather’s death is approaching. Do I send my grandma a condolence note (she’s 82 and misses her husband terribly)? Is a phone call better? Or do I let the day go without making a big deal, since it will only remind her of her loss?
A: Letting your grandmother know that you are thinking of her is the best thing you can do to help her heal. There are many ways to reach out: Send a handwritten note, bring her a home-cooked meal, offer to spend the evening together, or simply telephone her to “say hello.” What you choose depends on your grandmother’s personality and how she feels as the day nears. More important than you specific action is the fact that you take one-any genuine gesture will be warmly received.
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The anniversay of my friends baby passing is approaching. I want to send a card or a note. Sadly, the baby died the same day it was born. I want to acknowledge the child’s memory, as well as, the parent’s loss. Do you send a note to the parents about the loss or what would of been their baby’s 1st birthday?
Thanks,
Mike Aragon
Mike,
It is very kind and tender of you to remember this important date in the lives of your friends. It is very appropriate for you to reach out to them in remembrance of this. You might write something along the lines of, “I wanted you to know that you are in my prayers on the nineteenth; please know that you have friends who love you and share your sadness.” Next year you may want to change to a phone call and while never forgetting, as they won’t, look to other blessings in their lives for comfort.
The world could use more men like you.
G&H