Comments on: Stained Sofa: Dealing with messy guests http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/12/stained-sofa-dealing-with-messy-guests/ Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:27:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Graceandhonor http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/12/stained-sofa-dealing-with-messy-guests/#comment-1551 Graceandhonor Thu, 21 Jan 2010 21:27:25 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=1569#comment-1551 Paula, the original answer is premised upon the assumption that the guest would offer to pay for damages, but when they do not, the host should not pursue them for it. A gracious and concerned guest should offer to pay; a gracious host will not ask them to, but if the guest offers, should feel fine in accepting. If I damaged something in another's home, I would want to pay for it. I don't think you and the original answer are far apart, as we would never dun a guest for damages without them stepping forward first. Paula, the original answer is premised upon the assumption that the guest would offer to pay for damages, but when they do not, the host should not pursue them for it. A gracious and concerned guest should offer to pay; a gracious host will not ask them to, but if the guest offers, should feel fine in accepting. If I damaged something in another’s home, I would want to pay for it. I don’t think you and the original answer are far apart, as we would never dun a guest for damages without them stepping forward first.

]]> By: Paula http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/12/stained-sofa-dealing-with-messy-guests/#comment-1550 Paula Thu, 21 Jan 2010 21:12:50 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=1569#comment-1550 I totally disagree. I have hosted numerous parties for my two children and mishaps occur. I have NEVER expected to be reimbursed from my guests for damages that were accidents, and they are ALL accidents. No one intentionally spills things and intends to damage anything. I have had wine, soda, kool-aid type stains and rips and damaged toys and thats just part of the cost of hosting parties in your home. Am I really wrong in this and should insult my guest with a drycleaing bill? I totally disagree. I have hosted numerous parties for my two children and mishaps occur. I have NEVER expected to be reimbursed from my guests for damages that were accidents, and they are ALL accidents. No one intentionally spills things and intends to damage anything.
I have had wine, soda, kool-aid type stains and rips and damaged toys and thats just part of the cost of hosting parties in your home.

Am I really wrong in this and should insult my guest with a drycleaing bill?

]]>