http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/12/b-list-invites-how-to-handle-your-second-tier-of-wedding-guests/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:41:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/12/b-list-invites-how-to-handle-your-second-tier-of-wedding-guests/#comment-1434 Graceandhonor Fri, 29 Jan 2010 21:50:14 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=1490#comment-1434 Sue, your niece is seeking to make amends and you should graciously attend and demonstrate forgiveness to your children. I am very glad to see the bride is attempting to do the right thing. Sue, your niece is seeking to make amends and you should graciously attend and demonstrate forgiveness to your children. I am very glad to see the bride is attempting to do the right thing.

]]> http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/12/b-list-invites-how-to-handle-your-second-tier-of-wedding-guests/#comment-1433 Sue Thu, 28 Jan 2010 19:44:33 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=1490#comment-1433 I left a comment in December about my husband's niece not inviting our two children, 12 & 14 to her wedding, but she did invite her other cousins ages 18-28. We decided that my husband and I would go and made other plans for our kids. On Jan. 23rd, my niece called and said they are now invited! (Her wedding is Feb. 20th) Because our feelings had already been hurt and we have a certain amount of pride, we said the kids had already made plans and won't be going. She was shocked and upset. We are now thinking it will be awkward to see her at her wedding and wonder what to say when people ask where our kids are? Thank you so much for your advice! I left a comment in December about my husband’s niece not inviting our two children, 12 & 14 to her wedding, but she did invite her other cousins ages 18-28. We decided that my husband and I would go and made other plans for our kids. On Jan. 23rd, my niece called and said they are now invited! (Her wedding is Feb. 20th) Because our feelings had already been hurt and we have a certain amount of pride, we said the kids had already made plans and won’t be going. She was shocked and upset. We are now thinking it will be awkward to see her at her wedding and wonder what to say when people ask where our kids are? Thank you so much for your advice!

]]> http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/12/b-list-invites-how-to-handle-your-second-tier-of-wedding-guests/#comment-1432 Tia B. Fri, 11 Dec 2009 01:52:43 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=1490#comment-1432 Invite people you dearly want with you. Do not say anything about the villa until all the responses have been received. (Everyone should respond based on the thought that the lodging expense is theirs.) Then, once all the tally is in, invite certain people to stay at the villa. Otherwise what would you say to an "A" lister who may have declined by phone, but then changes their response to a yes. You may have already invited that "B" person. Best Wishes. Invite people you dearly want with you. Do not say anything about the villa until all the responses have been received. (Everyone should respond based on the thought that the lodging expense is theirs.) Then, once all the tally is in, invite certain people to stay at the villa.
Otherwise what would you say to an “A” lister who may have declined by phone, but then changes their response to a yes. You may have already invited that “B” person.
Best Wishes.

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