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I just broke off my engagement, and gave him the ring back ceremoniously. My question is, should i give him back the diamond earrings and necklace too? They were xmas presents. I got a real Gucci watch for my birthday, and a real D & G jacket for valentines day too. He is rich, and agreed to pay off my credit card debt, which was all flights to visit him, which he hasn’t done. So, do I sell all that stuff? Give it back?
A lady would sell the jewelry items necessary to pay off the credit card and not expect any additional money from an ex-fiance. You were correct in returning the engagement ring, as it was given in expectation of marriage. The other gifts are yours to retain, as he should keep those he received from you.
I think Judge Judy would agree.
I agree, too. Any gifts given to you are yours (though you were correct to return the ring). Whether you choose to sell the jewelry to pay your travel debts or not is up to you. You are also correct not to ask him to pay the credit card debts at this point, even if he had indicated that he would do so. We think Judge Judy would agree with that, too!