Welcome to Etiquette Daily
This open thread is your space to use as you like. We invite you to discuss current and traditional etiquette. Feel free to ask questions of each other and the community moderators here.
Open thread
Previous post: In-Flight Etiquette Poll: Cell phones
Next post: "Do I Need To Lose A Few Pounds?": A weighty question
Loading ...
{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }
My fiance is currently in medical school. He is graduating and will officially be a M.D a week before we are getting married.
Is it okay to put ” in the marriage of our daughter, Melissa B. to Dr. Scott L. Parker” instead of Mr. Scott L. Parker on our invitation even though he won’t officially be a Doctor for a few more weeks after the invitations are mailed out?
It is fine to use “Dr.” as he will be one by the time the event the invitation is for; congratulations to him on this achievement and you both on your upcoming marriage.
Hello. I have a question concerning coffee pots vs. tea pots. I was wondering how much of a faux pa it would be to serve tea in a coffee pot, rather than a teapot. When I say coffee pot, I mean the tall, ceramic (or what you will) pots used specifically to serve coffee, not to make it. I am actually less interested in whether it would be rude to do so now, and more interested in whether it may have been rude to do so in the 1930′s: I am working on a play in which tea will be served, and we are trying to find a pot that will be both noticeable and socially acceptable.
Thanks so much!
Use the teapot for your stage prop if the scene calls for tea; it will drive your knowledgeable patrons nuts if you do not.
How should university professors be addressed, assuming they haven’t made a particular request and have a PhD: “Professor” or “Dr.”?
They should be addressed as “Dr.” if they hold a Phd., otherwise “Professor” is appropriate, as a professor may not necessarily hold a Phd.
I need help! I have a friend who has invited me to come visit her (she lives 5 hours away) and is insistant that I stay in her home while I am there. The first (and last) time I was there for a visit her house was absolutely filthy and an infestation of bugs was obvious. I don’t want to her hurt feelings as she is an absolutely sweet woman but the thought of setting foot in that house is more than I can bear.
“Thank you, Sally, but really, it would be better for me to stay at a hotel. Now, what would you like to do while I am there?” Maybe this will give her pause to think about your decision. If she asks you point blank when you are visiting, take her hand, look her in the eye and say, “I care for you deeply and know you are a very, very busy person. The last time I stayed with you, I had difficulty dealing with the bugs and all in your home. I want to maintain our friendship and hope you do, too. I would want my friend to tell me this if I needed to know.” Really, you are doing her a favor by being honest if she presses.