Comments on: Open thread http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/ Tue, 07 Feb 2012 06:41:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Daniel Post Senning http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-403 Daniel Post Senning Thu, 25 Jun 2009 15:10:43 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-403 What a thoughtful suggestion. What a thoughtful suggestion.

]]> By: Marc http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-402 Marc Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:56:36 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-402 Dear Graceandhonor, Thank you for your helpful advice. Yes, we have been blessed in many ways. I wish the same for you and those you care about. Regards, Marc Dear Graceandhonor,
Thank you for your helpful advice. Yes, we have been blessed in many ways. I wish the same for you and those you care about.
Regards,
Marc

]]> By: Graceandhonor http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-401 Graceandhonor Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:01:25 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-401 Dear Marc, How blessed you and your wife are to have such caring neighbors. Might I suggest that when your wife writes thank you notes to each of those who donated funds that she acknowledges more was received than needed, and therefore she is suggesting the overage be used to start a neighborhood sunshine fund for others in the neighborhood when they are in similar circumstances? This fund could be administered by the neighborhood homeowners association or welcome committee or women's group or somesuch. And kudos to you for wanting to do the right thing. Dear Marc,

How blessed you and your wife are to have such caring neighbors. Might I suggest that when your wife writes thank you notes to each of those who donated funds that she acknowledges more was received than needed, and therefore she is suggesting the overage be used to start a neighborhood sunshine fund for others in the neighborhood when they are in similar circumstances? This fund could be administered by the neighborhood homeowners association or welcome committee or women’s group or somesuch. And kudos to you for wanting to do the right thing.

]]> By: Graceandhonor http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-400 Graceandhonor Thu, 25 Jun 2009 13:55:29 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-400 Thank you, Messrs. Flynn and Senning. I am most happy to be of service. Thank you, Messrs. Flynn and Senning. I am most happy to be of service.

]]> By: Daniel Post Senning http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-399 Daniel Post Senning Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:06:24 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-399 I feel the same way ; ) I feel the same way ; )

]]> By: Sean-Thomas Flynn http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-398 Sean-Thomas Flynn Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:57:34 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-398 graceandhonor - I want to be you when I grow up! your advice is so wonderful! graceandhonor – I want to be you when I grow up! your advice is so wonderful!

]]> By: Graceandhonor http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-396 Graceandhonor Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:06:10 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-396 Marc, regarding your etiquette inquiry, you can post it here in this thread, if you like. Marc, regarding your etiquette inquiry, you can post it here in this thread, if you like.

]]> By: Graceandhonor http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-395 Graceandhonor Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:41:33 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-395 Communicate to him via each way you have attempted before: Dear John, As you know, we have tried to reach you and are sorry we haven't been able to connect. We appreciate your initial interest in participating in our wedding, but understand your decision not to at this time. We hope you and Cathy have a great wedding, too. Sincerely, Jack and Jill This conveys that you have removed him from the wedding party and are declining participation in his, but is gracious and leaves the door open in case he ever wants to come forward and explain himself. It could be something terrible going on with him, and he may need your kindness. Or, he may be upset about something you've done. In either case, it is encumbent upon you to be the gracious one, be forgiving, be kind. Consider this the first test of your marriage unity. Let it go. Move on. Communicate to him via each way you have attempted before:

Dear John, As you know, we have tried to reach you and are sorry we haven’t been able to connect. We appreciate your initial interest in participating in our wedding, but understand your decision not to at this time. We hope you and Cathy have a great wedding, too.

Sincerely,

Jack and Jill

This conveys that you have removed him from the wedding party and are declining participation in his, but is gracious and leaves the door open in case he ever wants to come forward and explain himself. It could be something terrible going on with him, and he may need your kindness. Or, he may be upset about something you’ve done. In either case, it is encumbent upon you to be the gracious one, be forgiving, be kind. Consider this the first test of your marriage unity. Let it go. Move on.

]]> By: Marc http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-397 Marc Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:33:24 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-397 Hi! Hope you can help with a tricky etiquette problem my wife & I are having. A few weeks ago my wife experienced a sudden & serious illness. She was in the hospital for a few days and sent home to recover. While the doctors expect her to make a full recovery (thank heaven), right now she is quite weak. Our neighbors learned of my wife's condition and tried to think of a way to help. Knowing how important a neat house is to her, they decided to collect money to pay for a cleaning service. Here's the dilemma: our neighbors' efforts were so successful that they raised enough money to pay for the cleaning service for several months. Happily, my wife's recovery is expected to be much shorter than that. So the question is: Is it bad form to continue to use the proceeds raised for the cleaning service when my wife is fully capable of resuming her old activities? I've suggested donating the unused portion to a popular charity in the town's name. My wife thinks that would appear ungrateful. Your help is greatly appreciated. Hi! Hope you can help with a tricky etiquette problem my wife & I are having. A few weeks ago my wife experienced a sudden & serious illness. She was in the hospital for a few days and sent home to recover. While the doctors expect her to make a full recovery (thank heaven), right now she is quite weak. Our neighbors learned of my wife’s condition and tried to think of a way to help. Knowing how important a neat house is to her, they decided to collect money to pay for a cleaning service. Here’s the dilemma: our neighbors’ efforts were so successful that they raised enough money to pay for the cleaning service for several months. Happily, my wife’s recovery is expected to be much shorter than that. So the question is: Is it bad form to continue to use the proceeds raised for the cleaning service when my wife is fully capable of resuming her old activities? I’ve suggested donating the unused portion to a popular charity in the town’s name. My wife thinks that would appear ungrateful. Your help is greatly appreciated.

]]> By: Marc http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2009/06/open-thread-41/#comment-394 Marc Wed, 24 Jun 2009 16:35:43 +0000 http://www.etiquettedaily.com/?p=888#comment-394 Hi! I have a tricky etiquette question. How do I submit it to the Etiquette Daily blog? Many thanks! Hi! I have a tricky etiquette question. How do I submit it to the Etiquette Daily blog? Many thanks!

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