Q: What should you do when a dinner guest arrives with a prepared dessert that you’d rather not serve that evening? This happened to me recently, and although I didn’t want to hurt my guest’s feelings, the surprise upset my plans. I told her I’d serve her dessert another time.
A: If the unexpected gift doesn’t complement your dinner, you’re not obligated to serve it unless you want to. Whatever you decide, make sure you enthusiastically thank your guest for her thoughtfulness. If you choose not to serve the dessert, explain that you look forward to enjoying hers tomorrow.