Q: I invited a couple to my home for dinner. But I had a series of domestic and work crises during the week before the meal and I’m just not up to cooking. Is it rude to take them out to dinner instead? Do I have to call them in advance and tell them?
A: It’s certainly not rude, but you should call for several reasons. First, you ought to make it clear in advance that you’re footing the bill, since you extended the invitation. It’s also courteous to alert them because their attire and travel plans may be affected. You can choose the restaurant, unless you know they have a favorite place. And if it doesn’t inconvenience them to come to your home first, you could invite them to have drinks there before going out to make the evening that much more intimate.
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Recently I sent out surprise birthday party invitations to celebrate a milestone in our Mother’s life. After sending them a family member called to point out that the date is wrong. the party is Sunday September 6th, and I foolishly put Sunday September 8th ( the 8th is a tuesday) What should I do?? I have a few ideas in mind, but I would like to know the best way to approach this. Do I call, e-mail, send a new written card or print on a small card or post card the date correction?
A (pretty) postcard correction would be appropriate:
“In my excitement about Mom’s birthday, I erred in communicating the date for her party! It is Sunday, September 6th and I so hope you can join us for this happy occasion! Sincerely, Jane”
If you requested rsvp on the original invitations, it may require more effort on your part to confirm attendees, as there may be some confusion, but don’t let it bother you, and have fun! My mom’s surprise 60th is one of my family’s happiest memories.