Q: How much should I spend on a wedding gift?
A: The value of a gift isn’t always equal to the price tag. First, try to figure out what the person would like. Don’t get hung up on the idea that you must spend a certain dollar amount to make the gift worthwhile. When choosing a gift think about three things: your affection for the person or couple, your budget, and what you think the recipient(s) would most like. The idea that the amount spent on a wedding gift should equal what the bride and groom are paying per plate for each guest is a myth. Don’t overspend—not only will your budget suffer, but it may be difficult to enjoy the wedding if it feels like nothing more than a quid pro quo. Ultimately, it is the thought behind it and the spirit of generosity with which it is given that determines the value of a gift.
For more on wedding etiquette, check out Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette, 5th Ed. by Peggy Post.