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by EPI Staff on May 15, 2009

Welcome to Etiquette Daily

This is the last work day of National Etiquette Week. What a perfect excuse to look for an opportunity to show those we work with a little extra consideration. It could make someone’s weekend, and your next Monday a bit more pleasant.

This is your space to use as you like.  We invite you to discuss current and traditional etiquette. Feel free to ask questions of each other and the community moderators here.

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queenie Burns May 15, 2009 at 4:49 pm

I expelled flatus today at the office, while talking to 2 people. It was a very small sound, but I was MORTIFIED. What can be said at a time like this? If anything.

I’m very upset. I don’t know if saying something would have only made it worse…since the sound was almost inaudible.

–Dying of embarrassment

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Daniel Post Senning May 18, 2009 at 7:14 am

This is more common than anyone would like to admit. We get asked all the time about how to handle situations like this. The best thing for you to do is to very quickly and discreetly excuse yourself. No long explanation is necessary. People will know what you are talking about and appreciate the consideration, or they won’t and no harm is done because you will not have made a production of it. “Excuse me” was invented for situations like this where one feels slightly embarrassed and wishes to acknowledge it.

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Lou Yoskowitz May 17, 2009 at 6:45 pm

I am taking a career development class in college. We have been presented with a scenario in which we are invited to a party where there will be executives from companies in our individual fields of endeavor.

The scenario goes on to state that we will be able to bring copies of our resume to hand out to these executives.

My question is this:

Isn’t rather presumptous to bring your resume to a gathering such as this, even though you are allegedly able to do so?

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Daniel Post Senning May 18, 2009 at 2:11 pm

Your instincts on this are good. It is wise to be careful about crossing the line between private and public life and to not push business on people when they are in social situations. At the same time, there are lots of business dinners and professional social gatherings. Many people make a practice of always having a resume with them when they are on a job hunt. There is nothing presumptuous about having a professional resume and giving it to prospective employers as part of a job search.

When you have a question about the nature of a particular event you can always get in touch with the host. This is true for establishing the expected dress code as well as the particular social nature of the event.

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