Q: I am actively looking for work (don’t have the luxury of not working) and am confused by different advice as to how to approach this subject with a potential employer. I am 12wks pregnant and not showing. when is the appropriate time to tell? during an interview? This I would think NO… due to the obvious. or when an offer is made? I feel deceitful, but NEED to find a job. this is my first pregnancy and can not predict how I will feel after.

A: No employer has the right to ask if you are pregnant or planning to be, so you aren’t required to tell but if you accept a job that requires training and they invest time and money to do this only to find out that you are at the least going to have to take time off for delivery and child care, they probably won’t be pleased. It would be most ethical to tell them, but you aren’t required by law to do so. Instead, you might look for a long-term temporary job – there are often jobs that are three or six months in duration. This would provide you with income, although probably not medical benefits, and give you and the employer a defined period of time when you will be available and when they will have a job available.

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